I’m a girl who loves all sports, and I want to challenge myself just the way my father used to challenge himself. Because my parents never raised me as this is a girl or he is a boy. They were like these are our kids. They should be exposed to all activities, all sports. I want to do everything my father does, and I’m trying my best. I love cricket, horse riding, shore-jumping, polo, swimming, hiking and tennis. Though I never learned these activities except cricket, I was always an old dog who couldn’t be taught new tricks.
My favourite colour growing up was pink. But now it’s blue and black, which probably are not very feminine according to the stereotypes. But I liked them. And I think that’s good. It’s not necessary that if she’s a girl then the colour should be pink. Actually, I never liked pink that much. Pink is slapped onto girls. Though I’ve pink accessories in childhood, but not now. It’s like girl equals to pink. I was like why should I fit into this norm?
You shouldn’t make separate compartments or boxes for your children. I admire my parents for that. I play with barbies, but I also had Legos. I still have some and little toy miniatures. So, there’s a tank with a barbie next to it. We never defined sports and activities with the gender that it’s for girls n that’s for boys. It gives you the benefit that it makes you more open to not putting things into certain boxes.
Yeah, I’m really glad that in my childhood sports, education and activities aren’t defined by gender. So, I never think according to that. This also benefits you that you don’t create limits or lines not to cross them. So, then the whole universe is yours, you can explore, you can find out who you are. And you can develop skills that you might not able to develop not because of your gender, but because of the roles that society defines with gender, which isn’t true. People say that men shouldn’t cook. Why? Why they shouldn’t cook? If they are doing this, we should admire them, and support them. I remember … my uncles cook food in the house, and still, they used to. We need to break down walls and defy stereotypes.
We implement too many limits on us by defining roles, it’s sad, but then I think we were evolving. It’s not like that. We have so many more men around us. There are so many famous persons in which there were many men and women. I think in every sector, in everything you’ll see women and men standing shoulder-to-shoulder, and it’s getting even more common. Because people are starting to break-out the stereotypes. It’s very refreshing to see. It makes you secure. You know if there is this kind of society where men n women are equal, in every field, I think it’s refreshing and secure, very secure. Because if you aren’t pulling someone back so, you aren’t denying themselves. I think it opens new avenues for bigger and better things because where there is collaboration it always ends up to something greater and improved. Where men and women have collaborated, they can take any field to higher levels.
I’m extraordinary pathetic. Because that’s the values my parents installed in me in all of us. Compassion and respect for humanity no doubt whatever their financial status was, whatever professional status they belong. Because if you want to earn respect for yourself then you have to respect others. Because where you are today perhaps you aren’t there tomorrow. Maybe you are empty-handed or maybe you have double than that you already have. But you shouldn’t forget this who you are, and what defines you. That’s humanity. Until you become a good person you can’t level-up or succeed in life.
My father actually my parents ask me every-day: what did you learn today? What was the conclusion of today? This is how you live your life, right? That one day ends it’s going to be yesterday or tomorrow so, what did you learn from that day? Because every day should be something that adds to you. Every day you grow, and you grow. So what growth did you have that day? It could be anything. So, this was our everyday conversation. About how you could give back to society, and make a difference. Because everyone lives and dies. That’s part of life. You know you can’t deny the fact that you, I, and everyone is going to pass away. So, move on to whatever is next to us.
Purpose of Life
But what do we do in this life? You should keep in touch with your life. Because most people forget that they are here in this world, with this life for a purpose. It’s a fact that every one of us wants to achieve anything financially or professionally, that’s not wrong, that’s right and good because if you don’t make yourself stable financially in this life so, you can’t give a good start to your next generation. That’s not wrong either.
I never wanted to be in the limelight. For me, my education was my first priority because that’s very important. Because education is an effort we do for recognition, to be recognized by what you are. I think knowledge is something… it’s the thirst that can never be quenched. Knowledge isn’t just education. It’s experienced, learning every discipline. Like I said that my father always told me that there is no limit to anything. Whatever you do I’m always with you. You should keep learning and growing. Until you’re not satisfied with yourself, you don’t get the feeling of achievement.
You have to stay grounded. It’s very hard to stay grounded. But you have to. Not for anyone else, but for yourself. Be like a tree. Stay grounded. Connect with your roots. Turn over a new leaf. Bend before you break. Relish your unique natural beauty. Keep growing. Because whatever goes up comes down.
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