I am writing about something in particular that I really feel strongly about and I think that we do not really talk about much because it is proscription.
What is emotional turmoil?
It is ok to not be ok sometimes. Emotions are a spectrum. They are as a whole palette, you have to experience and enjoy each thing on that platter. There are times when you feel sad and you go through a turmoil but you should always remember in those times that it will get better.
Emotional turmoil is something that a lot of people experience not those with just borderline personality sorter or any other personality, but this is prevalent for all individuals. An emotion turmoil is when you feel all of the emotions are overcoming you and they are overpowering you.
It’s like you are standing in an ocean and a wave is about to hit you but when we talk about emotional turmoil we are not talking about a wave, we are talking about a tsunami! It hits you with extreme power and you feel like you can’t get from under it. You feel stuck, trapped, overwhelmed and powerless but it is really important to recognize that there are things that you can do to help yourself.
Expectations are wrong
When you are going through a hard time; expecting people to understand what you are going through is not going to help. It's not about somebody else and that is what you need to recognize because every person is going through something on some level. It could be a different problem but nobody has ‘life perfect’ and if you are going through something, it's you who has the sole and the most responsibility to be there for yourself, care for yourself and be better.
When people tell you, stop thinking about it, get over it. It is not one thing that you are thinking about. It is not like, at 2 a.m or at a specific time when you suddenly feel sad. It can be in the morning when you are in class or you are meeting people. Even though you are smiling from the outside but from the inside, you feel really really devastated for no particular reason.
You might get anxiety attacks, panic attacks and at the time people might be thinking that you were enjoying, but it was arduous! Depression is not because something has happened in your life, it is not always because of one reason.
You would cry for yourself to sleep every night, wish you could go back in time and get your life back and be a human again because suddenly you do not have a margin to be human anymore. You were just an object, on which everybody had the right to comment on. But it is part of reality and everyone feels like that at one point in their lives.
Have a positive attitude and be sure of your own self and happiness. So what I want to let people know is that have faith in yourself, you should love yourself before loving anyone else. You should be sure of how much you are worth and your own satisfaction means everything. You know if you are not happy with yourself nothing in the world will ever make you happy!
In any situation, you have two options either you can sulk over it and cry or you could face it with a smile and think about possible solutions because the thing either good or bad will never last long. If you think that you are doing really well and you are in a really good space that’s not gonna last forever either. So if you face the hard times in a positive manner and overcome them so when you look back at that thing they don’t seem as much big anymore.
An important element: ‘bullying’
For the people who love bullying others’, I think we all need to be cautious and responsible with the words we choose because everything has an effect. All the words that we say are not isolated. Whatever we do with somebody, it somehow comes back to us as well because according to stats 80 % of people have experienced bullying in some form. It’s not like, that there are only 20% bullies in the world; you know that 80 % who get bullied are also bullied so it is a cycle.
Let’s break out of that cycle. We should be more responsible with the words that we choose to express ourselves, the way that we describe others, the way we see ourselves and the way we see others. To remember, everything somehow comes back and everything has a domino-effect!
Everyone has struggles and just because somebody’s life seems very easy, happy and satisfying, it does not necessarily mean that it is the truth.
I learned many lessons from the people who supported me but the most I learned from the people who decided to bail out and who hated on me for no reason, try to bring me down and always tried to find out some flaws. I think I owe it to them the most because they are the ones who make me realize my self-worth even more.
Fortune cookie, “It only gets better when you get better”
That makes sense. The change that has to come from within you, that satisfaction will never come from things outside of you. Only if you love yourself, you are happy then you can know your own worth.
You can get all the materialistic things in the world, you can get all the success but the thing goes like what is a success? The number of likes you get on your Instagram, the number of views you get on a video, the grades you achieve or the amount of money you have in your bank account? I do not think so because success is feeling happy from within. You have to promise yourself to be happy every time and keep smiling as it was said that ‘happiest girls are the prettiest.’
So I would like to conclude with this that we are all perfect in our own imperfections and our imperfections make us unique. We don’t have to be like anybody else, we just have to be like ourselves and that’s what gonna keep us unique, happy and self-satisfied.
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