I’m trying to be something I’m not. Most of you are thinking that she sounds a bit shy or maybe she gets nervous easily. Yeah, all those things are 100% true, but why?
To answer simply, I’m an introvert.
So what’s an introvert?
An introvert is a calm and quiet person that doesn’t like to talk very much and keeps their thoughts limited to themselves. They are the kind of person that goes home just to relax and have time to think.
But that’s not to say that an outgoing person can’t be an introvert. As long as they enjoy the quiet and peaceful time to get to themselves, they’re most likely an introvert to a certain extent. So the main thing I want to share is that there’s nothing wrong with being an introvert.
Societies’ perspectives about introverts
However, society doesn’t see it from this aspect. Society has taught us that being an introvert is the worst thing you can be and that everyone should be extroverted. We’re told that being outgoing is good and being bashful and quiet is something very bad. All in all, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with being an introvert. No matter what society says, you don’t need to change yourself for them. Be who you are because being an introvert is great.
We’re told in school that we have to raise our hands, participate in a class or we lose marks. In every parent-teacher meeting, my parents were told that “your daughter is very shy, she needs to learn to speak up more.” I was told to share my voice whenever possible.
Being an introvert, these standards create some resistance to be achieved. That’s why I started writing two years ago, to prove to not only myself but to everyone that I wasn’t shy to raise my voice. I could write and tell the world who I am and what I want.
No big deal.
I come up with a topic that I was truly passionate about that I felt like I wanted to share with the world.
Be who you are, unapologetically!
You don’t need to change yourself to be accepted, to be successful and to be happy. Keep in mind, within the circle of introverts; there are people such as Elton John, Emma Watson, Michael Jordan, Albert Einstein and so many more unbelievable, inspiring people.
Do you think being an introvert has ever stopped any of them from achieving their goals and being happy? No.
A lot of you have probably been told something along the lines, why be a follower when you can be a leader. But what about every leader needs a follower?
Just look at Mr Justin Trudeau, Prime Minister of Canada. Do you think he’d be where he is today without the support of people? If everyone was trying to be a leader no one would truly succeed as it’s the followers that define the true leader.
But, that’s not to say that an introvert can’t be a leader. Let’s look like Abraham Lincoln and Rosa Parks. All incredible inspirational leaders and all introverts.
Is introversion a problem?
In a business setting, The company’s CEO will look at an introvert and say, “If you’re not going to share your ideas then you’re useless to me.”
Well, guess what, these companies are missing someone who’s something extraordinary.
Introverts are known to be multitalented, flexible, responsible, work well in small groups and individually.
So being an introvert has no effect on how happy or how successful you’re going to be.
If you see yourself as an introvert and think it’s the worst thing in the world, you’re never going to be truly happy with yourself. You constantly try to change to conform to society.
But if you accept yourself as an introvert and you’re happy, there’s nothing in the way of you achieving your goals and getting what you want.
I want to end with a quote, “There is zero correlation between being the best talker and having the best ideas.”
For some, it’s a broadway spotlight; for others, it’s a lamplit desk. So, the next time you see the quiet kid in the back of the class, who don’t participate very much, I want you to think; wonder what great things he/she is going to come up with next.
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